Hall-Magill’s biggest concern is mine also (although I’m only 3/4 finished) “…Unfinished Business fails to fully consider the ways in which institutionalized #sexism, #racism create an unequal marketplace.”
This is something most women I know could write, sadly. But it’s painful and hard so most of us would let it go. I’m glad Anne didn’t.
I am six. My babysitter’s son, who is five but a whole head taller than me, likes to show me his penis. He does it when his mother isn’t looking. One time when I tell him not to, he holds me down and puts penis on my arm. I bite his shoulder, hard. He starts crying, pulls up his pants and runs upstairs to tell his mother that I bit him. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone about the penis part, so they all just think I bit him for no reason.
I get in trouble first at the babysitter’s house, then later at home.
The next time the babysitter’s son tries to show me his penis, I don’t fight back because I don’t want to get in trouble.
One day I tell the babysitter what her son does, she tells me that he’s just a little boy, he doesn’t know…
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I’m back at Seth Godin’s freelancer course via Udemy and have arrived at Lesson 44, that’s Lesson 44, Develop a Unique Voice. In typical Seth fashion, he encourages us to make our discoveries public so mine go here and are routed to FB and Twitter. Here goes-
Part I: Seth says “If you could choose an archetype that you want your business known for, what would it be?” Somehow others have chosen 5 so I chose 5 also.
- Confidence: modeling it myself in how I live, love and act…both in my personal and professional lives so that clients know I can help them become more confident. They see me, my periodic struggles and can identify with that and trust me.
- Curious: showing genuine interest in the world around me as well in the people I come across, whether or not they are clients. Being curious about ideas and, not the nosy parker sort a la Gladys Kravitz.
- Empathetic: being with someone as fully as I can be, without concern about how it might look or how I might be perceived my someone who doesn’t get me. I’m struggling with my empathy right now, though, as I deal with some providers who speak so disparagingly about their clients.
- Creative: Willing to think outside the
mombox about ideas, projects and borings tasks too. Custom designed programs are always on the table.
- Service: creating the highest possible level of experience for a client(s), going above and beyond when it’s not expected, wowing someone who wasn’t excepting it and continually being mindful of how I can act in service my clients. This is one of my favorite pieces of my business.
More from Seth Godin’s Freelancer course on Udemy. This is Lesson #24.
Q. “What is your client afraid their husband/partner/friend will say if they say ‘yes’?”
A. “Why are you spending money on that?” “Will it be worth it?”
“How will you know it’s working?” “Why not see a therapist since insurance might cover that?”
Q.” What would your client say to explain why they bought ___from you?”
A. “I want to accomplish ____ and she doesn’t take on clients that she doesn’t think she can help succeed.” “My friend worked with her and she was terrific.” “I haven’t invested any money in me since college.” ”
Q.”What would you like them to tell their husband/partner/friend?”
A. “Coaching is very different from therapy. It’s action-oriented and Elizabeth’s programs center more around accountability and measuring success than many other coaches’ do. We check in at 5 weeks, a little less than 1/2 way through, to see if I’m getting what I need to reach my goal. If I don’t feel like I am, we end our coaching and she refunds the money I invested. I have a feeling that working with her will change my life.”
Are you curious & interested in social justice issues as they relate to moms?
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- Help agency build partnerships with similar goals and/or clients;
- Assist with on-site training logistics.
Depending on start date, intern’s schedule and interest, other projects may also come available. This is an unpaid internship but intern will receive regular, biweekly supervision meetings in which she will receive specific feedback related to her work, have the chance to ask additional questions, brainstorm projects that may be of interest to her. She will also have the option of working from home most of the time, on her own schedule.
Intern should be curious, interested in social justice issues especially as they pertain to women who are pregnant and/or have children. She should be detail-oriented and able to work independently. She should be a better than average writer. Familiarity with blogging is a plus. Ideal candidates would have taken a class or have a background in women’s studies, or at minimum, an interest in work/life balance; intersection of class and race in mothering, violence against women.
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Creativity requires TIME: http://youtu.be/VPbjSnZnWP0 via @youtube
I found this via rochellewilliams.com. Indeed, a sweet video which hopefully will help remind me that –
a) taking time is NOT wasting time
b) the first idea isn’t always the best idea;
c) “creativity is not inspired by the pressure of time.”
Warning: serious post
I should be asleep right now. It’s 5:29 am and I’ve been up for at least an hour, ever since Elisabeth woke up last to nurse. But I couldn’t fall back to sleep and decided after my plan to go to bed early last night backfired, that I would get up and do something productive instead of just laying there, growing more anxious.
As a child I often had a hard time falling asleep. My thoughts would wander in unconnected ways and it would be midnight and I’d still be awake, at age eleven. This went away after a time but I’ve always feared that it would return. And maybe now, in a horrible bed, muddled by a time change adjustment that I should have kicked by now, exacerbated by Elisabeth’s constant waking to nurse, the sleeplessness demon has finally returned for me. It feels like a demon because I’m clearly helpless (even when awake!) to make changes that would allow me to sleep better. Our room, for example, has the horrible combination of being blindingly bright without enough air: it’s either too warm or too cool…but only at night. The bed is rock hard with no sheet (Germans for some reason don’t believe in a top sheet) and a humungous Euro pillow which up until now I’d assumed were decorative in purpose.
I mean, they are so massive that your head can never rest comfortably on them. And size isn’t the only issue. The stuffing in that damned pillow is broken, for lack of a better word, so bits surround your head but don’t really cushion it. I never knew how good I had it at home with my lovely coconut pillow on my bed, so…intact, perfect and truly sinkable.
It’s a horrible thing to wake up and have the first thought in your mind be a wondering of when you might be able to go back to sleep. Especially on vacation! You feel guilty for not wanting to explore the city but really you shouldn’t even be allowed to leave the house, let alone with a toddler, with the little amount of sleep you have in your system. Example: you packed for a day road trip on Friday night and forgot to include wipes in the diaper bag. Wipes. Of all the things that a parent of a one year old cannot, under any circumstances, cannot forget, you did. They weren’t there. Then, you did it again. The mom who has wipes and an extra diap in the BOB forgets to pack wipes on two separate car trips. She who walks around with a teething ring in her back pocket, just in case, spaced the wipes, twice in a row. So you start worry about that slip-up. The sleeplessness demon feeds that worry like a dealer with drugs until you feel so anxious about your lack of sleep that your belief that you might never sleep again seems perfectly reasonable.
Didn’t those with insomnia just do too much before bed? Their brains are too active, they watch TV or text in bed, answer email while on the toilet. And I admit that I, too, have done all of those things. Late nights at the computer (how else could I get anything done with a baby??!), eating dinner past 7 pm. Check, check. But I turned off the computer at 9:10 last night, deliberately trying to cultivate a “sleep-oriented mindset” (is that what they call it?) and nothing happened. I lay there listening to my own breathing, watching the light fade from the room, wondering when my husband would come to bed. Granted, I was at the other end of the bed with one hand stretched through the
crate crib bars so I could hold my Elisabeth’s hand in as much of an effort as I could make without waking her to ensure she was still alive and breathing. Not because she had stopped breathing at any point but because the story of a toddler who died at age 14 months in his sleep had leapt to my mind earlier when she had woke crying. I have the sleeplessness demon to thank for that horrible reminder, I’m sure.
So, I sit here yawning, bare legs stuck to a faux leather couch knowing it’s too late for any sleep tonight/today. Elisabeth will nap sometime today, at least once. Instead of visits to a castle or strolls along the Nekkar river, I’ll be looking forward to that particular activity today. Who knows? Maybe I’ll become so productive with this lack of sleep that I will finish my road trip post (without mention of the missing wipes, no need to re-hash that again), complete with pictures. Or…not.
18 year old Kris Bronner, a co-founder of UNREAL Candy, talks about why he and his brother set out on a mission to get the junk out of the candy that they love so much. They created a company that has attracted the likes of John Legend, Tom Brady, Matt Damon and more by
by asking why, thinking big, sweating details and doing good. It’s a worthwhile watch for anyone but especially anyone who works with teens. Two kids did this.
Just a regular Instagram photo of the fresh tulips that I’ve had on our dining table for almost a week. If I were allowed one indulgence, it might be two bunches of fresh flowers every week for the table. Three, even so the kitchen feels included to. Flowers always heal me, encourage me to breathe in, breathe deep and look closely. Self-care, nature’s way.
What would your weekly self-care indulgence be?